How to Plan the Perfect Solo Date

Have you ever wanted to take yourself on a date, but didn’t know where to start?

Maybe the idea feels uncomfortable. Maybe you worry about what people will think. Or maybe you’re so used to putting other people first that prioritizing your own pleasure feels foreign.

If that sounds like you, I want you to know: solo dates can be one of the most fulfilling, luxurious, and fun things you do for yourself.

Here’s how to plan the perfect self-romantic experience, inspired by my solo trip to Montreal.

Step 1: Choose the Right Atmosphere

Where you go matters. Your surroundings should feel safe, inviting, and comfortable.

When booking my Montreal hotel, I initially focused on keeping costs low, using credit card points for a boutique hotel but skipping the jacuzzi suite.

But when I arrived, I thought, Why not? and upgraded for an extra $50.

That simple choice shifted my entire experience. Instead of seeing my hotel as just a place to sleep, I turned it into a haven for relaxation and indulgence.

💡 Your turn: Choose a setting that makes you feel special. Whether it’s a beautiful café, a spa, or a cozy nook in your home, set the scene for luxury.

Luxury Bath Experience for One.

Step 2: Enjoy a Solo Dining Experience

Eating alone can feel uncomfortable if you’re not used to it. But trust me—it’s worth it.

That night, I found a pop-up food market inside a shopping mall. To my delight, there was a wine bar right next to a sushi stand.

I ordered a California roll with extra spicy mayo and a crisp glass of Chardonnay. And to help me stay present, I put in my noise-canceling earbuds and focused completely on the taste, texture, and sensation of each bite.

💡 Want to try dining alone but feel awkward?

✔️ Bring a book or journal.

✔️ Choose a cozy spot instead of a busy center table.

✔️ Use headphones to stay present.

✔️ Start small—coffee shops or wine bars are great first steps.

Step 3: Create a Night of Pure Indulgence

After dinner, I grabbed some M&Ms and popcorn and headed back to my hotel.

Then, I let myself do whatever felt good.

✔️ I read a book without checking my phone.

✔️ I took a luxurious bath with candles and oils.

✔️ I listened to music and gazed out at the city lights.

✔️ I went to bed when I felt tired—without checking the time.

Relaxing Bath Ingredients

The best part? I gave myself permission to enjoy the moment without guilt, second-guessing, or an agenda.

You can create this kind of experience for yourself anytime.

In my next blog, I’ll guide you through how to make solo self-care a regular habit, not just a one-time event.